The ”ship” of relationship is not an easy endeavor to anchor. Relationship generally is a thing that makes you want to examine yourself all the time, cross-checking your actions and attitude in them.
For instance, haven’t you sometimes got consumed with anger on the spot when your friend or lover utter something only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place?
Imagine what the level of respect and specialty would have been portioned to you if you had had the right attitude, skills and manner to approach or completely avoid majority of the arguments, disagreements, and confrontations you’ve experienced with the people in your life.
However, this is not to say you have to run away from all confrontations and arguments because you seek to enjoy peace in your relationship.
But there are easy approaches to take which can help you develop your emotional awareness and intelligence to build stronger relationships. The following 3 easy steps are basically pragmatic manner to get started in threading any difficult or complicated communication terrain.
- Check In on the other person
One thing common of all emotionally intelligent people is doing a background check.
“Back ground” check in this case involves checking to know what the other person is feeling or passing through.
This is just one of the best approach you can take at first before reacting to their behavior.
Checking in in a romantic or mere friendship relationship, give the other person the opportunity to open up to you, and see you as a reasonable person worthy of confiding in.
3: Place premiums on growth
To succed in life one need some vital years of growth. To have success particularly in relationship, growth is inconsequential.
When it appears things are not longer moving, emotional connection begin to experience some fault. It’s hard of paramount importance to avoid the self-help trap. Self-help trap is a journal base growth place where get alot or massive “ah has!” during your reading time, but then it doesn’t show in your actual behavior, expression, and relationships.
- Creating Communication Standards
Effective communication is what many fail to do when they’re speaking or typing—it’s just something they do nonchalantly. How often do you really think through how someone might perceive the emoji you just sent? Typically, not that often, which can create some miscommunications and unnecessary arguments because it puts you in responsive mode.The most important communication standard to implement is “the benefit of doubt plus verification” process. This means that when you’re communicating with someone, you take the position of “this person cares about me and wouldn’t intentionally say something to hurt me”. This first step creates some space before responding when someone in your life says something that triggers you or hurts your feelings. When you have a moment to remember that this person wouldn’t intentionally hurt you, it reminds you to clarify what they said